03 December 2012

One Last Story for 2012

The first Sunday of the last two years Sian has encouraged us and provided a place for us to share our stories. Sometimes she suggests a prompt but we are free to write whatever we want from our story of life. This year we were reassured that sometimes all it takes is a picture and a few words to tell a story from our heart. Sometimes, that's all that's needed, sometimes we need words always we need a part of ourselves. This is what I give you on the last Storytelling of 2012. 

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An Empty Seat at the Thanksgiving Table

This Thanksgiving, the Thanksgiving of 2012 was to be the first one celebrated without the Special Sister, Pat at home with us. Pat was diagnosed with Alzheimer's Disease in February. Christmas and her birthday, just a short time before she was in crisis, we all knew she was deteriorating but we were not at all prepared for what lay ahead of us in the month that followed her 58th birthday. Health wise Pat has improved a great deal and mentally she has been better with the help of medications. We have known though that her coming home even for a short visit was unrealistic. She frequently asked to go home and the thought of having to remove her again was too much. Pat was able to attend our family reunion in August since it's held at a local church. I hadn't given any thought to her not being there at Thanksgiving until 2 weeks before in Sunday School. A class member shared about her mother's declining health and AD. It hit me in the heart and tears just started pouring down my face. The following Sunday I raised our family's Thanksgiving up as a prayer request and cried again. Thanksgiving is my favorite holiday. I adore Christmas and celebrating the birth of my Savior but Thanksgiving for me is like Christmas without the material gifts and commercialism, no drawn out expectations and stress. This year I was not so eager for the time to get here, to walk into the house and not hear Pat say, "well, hey there!" As I turned the car into the neighborhood of my childhood the sadness pulled down on me and I reminded myself to be a big girl and not cry. We were the last to arrive and as we walked into the house I got to the threshold and couldn't move for a moment, it took a moment to process,
 there would be no empty seat at the table. Not yet, not this Thanksgiving. Pat was home.







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17 comments:

  1. How lovely that you were able to have one more Thanksgiving with everyone there. I am sure you appreciated it all the more as it was so unexpected.
    I work with an American lady and she always says she prefers thanksgiving to Christmas, it sounds like a lovely celebration to have.

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    1. It is, Deb :) We definitely cherish things and moments more when we know they won't be neverending.

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  2. Such a touching story,Beverly.....I'm so pleased for you that Pat was still able to share your Thanksgiving.

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  3. Such a poignant twist on Coming Home, Beverly, it has moved me very much. Thank you for sharing your story and pictures of your time together. it's a privilege to be there as a "guest".

    And thank you, too, for your kind words about Storytelling Sunday. It's very much appreciated x

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    1. Thank you for being a "guest" and an inspiration, Sian.

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  4. Oh Beverly...I'm not sure if there were more tears in my eyes at the beginning or the end of your story! I' m so pleased Pat was able to be there for Thanksgiving
    Alison xx

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    1. Oh, thank you so very much, Alison.

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  5. I'm so glad she was able to spend the day with you all!

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  6. Aw, Beverly, your story almost made ME cry! I'm so glad that Pat was able to be there with you all for Thanksgiving!!! I know this is a really tough time for you - I know it all too well - but you are so fortunate to have the love and support of your family. I'm glad you share stories about Pat on your blog from time to time! Thinking of you, sweet friend, and sending prayers your way! xo

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    1. Thanks, sweet Deb, my thoughts and prayers are with you during this holiday season.

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  7. What a beautiful story. Thank you for sharing,
    Rinda

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  8. Oh Bev, what a wonderful surprise. Praying for her and you as this season of Christmas comes around. Thank you for sharing with us, xxxx

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  9. Oh Beverly, I'm so glad she was there! Fantastic photos.

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  10. How wonderful Beverly - I was sharing both your initial disappointment and ultimately your joy. Happy, happy day!

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