08 June 2013

a Mama's Thoughts on the Morning They Wed

Last July today seemed so far away. Even in the last few months as SweetGirl and I have crafted it has seemed distant. Finally, the day has arrived. Today at 5pm the processional will begin and at approximately 5:15 my oldest child will take the final step into manhood. The Beast will become a woman's husband. He will in all aspects, legally, morally, spiritually and of the heart be bound to the heart and life of another. I have no doubt he will be a good husband, his Daddy and Papa have been amazing role models. He is a strong man and he is fiercely protective of those he loves.

Christopher, I am so proud of the man you have become.  I am blessed to have you as my son. I have told you in some very personal, deep discussions exactly what you coming into my life meant. I am thankful that you know we will always be here for you, that regardless of the blessing or struggle we are by your side and on our knees. Keep God in your life, invite him into the everyday workings of your marriage, the bumpy spots and the glorious highs. Never cease to express gratitude for your life, the blessings in it and the people that are a part of it. Know that I am your prayer warrior. Remember that women are in general more expressive and willing to share their thoughts and emotions. Listen.   Open up, share your thoughts and feelings. Allow her to be there for you. Work on the things that irritate or frustrate her and be forgiving in those things about her. You are trusting Ashley with your heart and you have found in her your anchor and your safe harbor. Cherish her, honor her, celebrate her.

Ashley, I am so happy that today you officially become what you have been for a long time now...one of us. You are woven into the fabric of our family and you are a strong and beautiful thread. I am honored and blessed by the relationship we have. Being the mother of sons, I have always believed part of my duty was to raise men that would be good husbands and fathers, I am grateful that you believe I have done that well.  Know God as your confidante, your Rock and your Father. Bring Him into your marriage, the times when you struggle and the times when you celebrate and the times that everything is going smoothly. Always know that I am your prayer warrior. Remember that most men are not talkers and sharers, they don't have a desire to talk through every emotion or experience. Be patient with him, give him the time he needs to think. Work on the things that annoy or aggravate him and be forgiving in those things about him.You are entrusting Christopher with your heart and your future, you have found him to be your anchor and safe harbor. Cherish him, honor him, celebrate him.

My hope is that the bond you create today be as strong, loving and fulfilling as the one the Chosen One and I have, as well as the one that I was created from. I love you both more than you can possibly imagine and today I am a very happy Mama and Mama Beverly. The song below speaks so well what is in my heart. I have prayed for you all your life, Christopher but I have also been praying for Ashley that long, I just couldn't call her by name.





26 comments:

  1. I'd like to just steal this entire letter when our sons marry. How beautiful. May it be the day God intended - full of love, faith, and family.

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    1. Thank you, Evelyn, I have no doubt your words someday will be just as perfect.

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  2. I cried as I read your words to your son and sweet daughter-in-law. Having a son and remembering his wedding day brought back such sweet memories. And having a girl in the family is awesome! Your words are so heartfelt, honest and true. You are an awesome woman Beverly and I'm proud to call you friend. Enjoy this special day and remember it is a blessed and holy day.

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    1. Thank you, Ann, it truly was a blessed and holy day. I know you had a wonderful memory making weekend with Violet :)

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  3. It's going to be a wonderful day..

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  4. It's going to be amazing! Congratulations!

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    1. It truly was, Ruth :) Thank you!

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  5. Oh my goodness, what wonderful words. Wishing them every happiness together always and hoping that you are having the most glorious day.

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  6. Such wise and beautiful words. What lucky people they are to have you in their life as Mamma and mamma Beverley. Have a fantastic day xx

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    1. Thank you, Jo and I definitely had a fantastic day

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  7. Oh Beverly, this is so moving! Congratulations on raising such a wonderful son and on welcoming someone who sounds like a terrific young woman into your family. Hugs to you and enjoy your day!
    rinda

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    1. Thank you, Rinda, I am so happy for them :)

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  8. Oh Beverly, I hope it has been a beautiful day! These words are so precious & truly show your love for your son & new daughter-in-law as well as your devotion to the Lord & commitment to Him!

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    1. It really was a beautiful (and humid lol) day, Melissa and the ceremony was very powerful.

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  9. What beautiful words. Your love for your family shines through. Hope you all had a glorious day.

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    1. Oh, thank you so much, Deb, it was most glorious :)

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  10. I hope it was a beautiful day for you all Beverly!

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    1. It absolutely was, Amy :) Thank you!

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  11. This is so sweet! It was a beautiful day for a beautiful wedding with beautiful people!

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  12. Sorry to be late, Beverley....I have tears in my eyes after reading those obviously heartfelt wods to your son and now- daughter-in-law...how lucky they are, to have you in their lives!
    Alison xx

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  13. Beautifully written and I hope you will be able to give them both a copy - will this love and goodwill, their marriage is off to a wonderful start.

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YOU ROCK! Seriously, I love getting comments, so know that you have put a bit of added sunshine in my day. Thanks so much and I hope your day is glorious!